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Guangdong has the most singles in China, but “leftover men” a problem

Posted: 11/6/2013 11:00 am

Statistics released by a matchmaking site ahead of Single’s Day, which falls Nov. 11, have revealed that Shenzhen has the highest proportion of single men to single women in China, Shenzhen Special Zone Daily reports. Another matchmaking website has revealed that Guangdong has the largest number of singles.

The report “The 2013 China Singles Perspective” stated that there are 74.3 “leftover women” for every 100 “leftover men” in Shenzhen.  Although the ratio of female to male residents of the city was once 7:1, men now outnumber women by 1.18 to 1. Men have outnumbered women since late 2010.

But a lack of available members of the opposite sex is not the only reason so many people are single in Guangdong., China’s most famous matchmaking website, claims that the growing number of single people also has something to do with particular living customs and work pressure.

A survey done by the website shows that a fast-paced lifestyle makes single people in Guangdong too busy to date, China Radio International reported.

Although the number of men unable to find a marriage partner is known to be a major social time bomb , the issue of leftover women also gets a great deal of media attention.

As well as being a day during which single people can celebrate and give each other gifts, November 11 has established itself as China’s busiest day for e-commerce in recent years.

#Correction: In the second paragraph, we had said men outnumber women by 118 to 1. Of course, we meant 1.18 to 1.


Huawei, ZTE among sites for “marriage corners” in Shenzhen

Posted: 08/28/2013 11:19 am

Parents can also hang up the advertisements as well as placing them on noticeboards, image courtesy of Guangzhou Daily

Guangzhou Daily reported yesterday that marriage corners (征婚角), noticeboards on which parents pin advertisements espousing the eligibility of their adult son or daughter for marriage, have been springing up throughout Shenzhen.

Marriage corners have also appeared outside the offices of prestigious companies such as Huawei and ZTE and the well-known marriage corner on Lianhua Mountain is still thriving. This particular approach to matchmaking could grow in popularity, considering TV matchmaking shows such as “If You Are the One” fell afoul of China’s morality campaign.

However, a reporter from the paper discovered on Sunday that a marriage corner that had appeared outside the Desai Building in Nanshan District’s Technology Park had been removed by authorities. The manager of a nearby kiosk at Exit D of Kejiyuan metro station told the reporter that authorities had removed it because they feared it would harm the city’s image.

But they continue to spring up. A ZTE employee identified as Xiao Wei told reporters that a cluster of mothers had appeared outside the company with print-outs listing their daughters’ credentials along with photographs. However, ZTE has its own internal system that helps employees meet and get to know each other.

Reporters also spoke to Mr. Pan, 50, near the marriage corner at Lianhua Mountain. He explained that his 30 year-old son had just finished a PhD at Shenzhen University, was good looking, and had a stable teaching career ahead of him. When asked whether his son agreed to him being there, Mr. Pan chuckled and said: “When I find the right person, of course he’ll agree.”

The success rate of the marriage corner on Lianhua Mountain and the frequency of scams were cited as reasons for not using online dating sites.

However, scamming in the matchmaking game is nothing new.

The Chinese proverb “To look at flowers while riding on horseback” (走马观花), which means to gain a superficial understanding about something after taking only a cursory glance, is one that intermediate students of the language often encounter. It has its origins in a legend about a matchmaking scam.

In the legend, two sets of parents are struggling to marry off their offspring. The girl has an ugly nose and the boy has a lame leg so they enlist the help of a hongniang (红娘), a female matchmaker in ancient China.

Aware of the problems, the hongniang introduces the couple to each other while the boy is riding on a horse and the girl is smelling a flower. After glancing at each other, both families accept the marriage and only find out later that they failed to get a good enough look at their future partner. You can see the scene portrayed in this cartoon.

Lets hope today’s parents are not desperate enough to exaggerate their kids’ credentials and downplay their weaknesses.


Dongguan’s single men are the nation’s loneliest, Guangzhou’s are the least

Posted: 06/20/2013 1:00 pm

An online survey of 33 major Chinese cities showed that Dongguan has the nation’s loneliest single men and that Guangzhou has the least, Hefei News reports.

The Jiayuan matchmaking website released its loneliness index on Wednesday, showing that single men suffered more severely from loneliness than single women. Methods included asking single people how uncomfortable they felt at matchmaking events and how often they felt overcome by loneliness. Among the 26 provinces, Inner Mongolia had the loneliest single men and Guangxi had the loneliest single women.

83,656 people participated in the survey which also showed that 89% of single men and 82% of single women got lonelier with age. The main reasons cited for failing to find a partner were “still waiting for the right one,” “personal problems,” and “work being too busy.”

“Personal problems” was a problem particularly common among single men who earn less than 2,000 a month. And being too busy was often cited by educated white-collar workers.

And, remember this if you have single friends, 60% of single people resent being pitied, according to the website. However, the entire premise for conducting the survey seems to be based on the assumption that being single is a bad thing.

In spite of having all this data, the website did not suggest reasons behind the findings. Why might Dongguan’s single men be the loneliest in the land? What comforts does Guangzhou offer to its single men?


Girl in Shenzhen “hires” BF for CNY, they end up actually liking each other

Posted: 02/25/2013 8:00 am

Chinese New Year is a very stressful time for many, especially young people who are reluctantly put through matchmaking activities by parents who fear that their children will be left on the shelf.

Many young people get round this by paying other single people to act as their boyfriend or girlfriend for the duration of the holiday. One 27 year-old woman in Shenzhen who tried to do this had a happier ending than anybody had even hoped for.

Miss Yuan, who lives in Huanggang Subdistrict in Longgang District, is now preparing to return to her native Hubei with her “boyfriend for hire” to buy a house together, Chutian Metropolis reported yesterday.

In early February Mr. Zhou, 32, received a message in one of his QQ groups that a man was offering to act as a boyfriend for hire for just 38 yuan on Chinese New Year. A bachelor, Zhou jokingly forwarded this to all of his contacts and all of his groups, pretending to offer his own services.

Yuan did not see Zhou’s proposition as a joke and was in fact so keen that she offered to add an extra ’0′ to the end of the asking price.

Although not convinced that she was being serious, Zhou started to chat with Yuan on QQ and they had something of a meeting of the minds which led to the exchange of phone numbers.

On the evening of February 7, Zhou had to face his parents in Huanggang and explain that he still didn’t have a girlfriend. His father’s scolding led him to promise that he would bring a girl home the following day.

The following afternoon, Zhou, a white collar worker who is based in Wuhan but whose parents live in Huanggang, called Yuan and invited her to his home. It turned out they lived less than an hour apart. On February 9, they met and immediately liked each other. Zhou’s parents were delighted to welcome a girl to their home and his mother pulled out all of the stops to make sure Yuan enjoyed the meal of her life.

That day, Yuan, who works as a tutor, had lied to her parents and told them she was just going to town to do some shopping. But upon returning home, she told her parents everything that had happened.

She told her parents that she wanted to be with Zhou and they respect her decision, Yuan told the paper. Now she is set to move to Hubei where they intend to buy a house together.

I suppose at their respective ages they can’t afford the luxury of taking it slowly.


Naked pictures of Guangzhou woman sent to her friends and family

Posted: 08/15/2012 7:00 am

There’s feeling rejected, and then there’s taking revenge: one ganma, or surrogate mother, in Guangzhou chose the later after her god-daughter rejected a boyfriend she recommended.  In China there is a concept called the 干妈 (ganma), which is similar to an unofficial godmother who tries to take on the mother’s role in a younger person’s life.  

It all started when the ganma, surnamed Yuan, brought home a prospective boyfriend for Miss Huang.  Huang didn’t like the guy, and basically told him to buzz off.  But Yuan was none-too-pleased, and began exacting revenge.

Shortly after the rejection, Huang was mortified when she discovered naked photos of herself were sent to her friends and family accompanied by threatening text messages, according to local media.

The series of messages and ensuing dispute continued for over a month. Initially, Huang suspected that her ex-boyfriend was behind it, but it emerged that he was abroad receiving medical treatment. It was later discovered that the pictures and messages had been sent by her ganma, Yuan.  She did it to avenge Huang’s rejection of a prospective boyfriend she had introduced.

Yuan could face jail time for the severe invasion of privacy.

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