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[Graphic Video] Wife Douses Mistress With Gasoline, Sets Her on Fire

Posted: 06/30/2014 5:53 pm


kunming mistress immolation affair[This story contains material that may offend some readers]

A graphic video has surfaced from Yunnan Province showing a mistress being doused in flammable liquid and being set on fire by the man’s wife.

The incident happened yesterday (June 29) at around 7pm in Kunming. Mr Liu, the manager of a nearby tea shop, said a woman dressed in black had come up behind a woman dressed in red and said, ”You seduced my husband!”

The woman in black, later identified as Shi, then threw hot chili peppers into the woman’s face (who has not been identified). Shi then poured gasoline on the woman and set her on fire, as depicted in the video below. It was recorded by the dashboard camera of a nearby car.

kunming mistress immolation affair

There was no fire extinguisher nearby, and when people tried pouring water on the woman the fire only grew in size. After one or two minutes the woman finally lost consciousness.

Shi then drank several mouthfuls from a brown-colored bottle which witnesses said smelled like pesticide, and began cutting herself. She was taken to hospital, and had this to say about the woman she set on fire:

She is my husband’s mistress. She forced me to have a divorce (from him), so I poured gasoline on her.

There’s no significance for my daughter to live anymore, I don’t want to live/I don’t want her to live anymore.

kunming mistress immolation affairMiss Zhang, a friend of Shi, said Shi had been complaining a mistress was disrupting her family’s plans to earn money for her daughter’s university tuition. Shi’s husband was apparently a devoted husband until the mistress appeared on the scene.

Shi is currently in serious condition and is under constant supervision. Shi’s husband, reportedly a bus driver named Ma, has not answered questions by reporters. The mistress died from her injuries.

Warning: the following video is terrible and horrifying.

[h/t @niubi]

Photos: 163, QQ


Corpses of HK Man’s 2nd Family Hidden in Shenzhen Apt for 14 Years

Posted: 06/4/2014 8:00 am

For 14 years, a Hong Kong man surnamed Jian has managed to keep the bodies of his mistress and his two-year-old son hidden in a rented Shenzhen apartment without raising any suspicion.

Jian’s apartment in Shenzhen where the bodies were discovered after 14 years.

The bodies were only discovered after Jian requested his landlord send a helper to clean his two-bedroom apartment located on the top floor of an 8-storey building on Lianhua North Road in Buji during his absence. On May 3, the helper detected a foul smell coming from a bag underneath the bed. When she opened the bag, she found decomposed human bones, Southern Metropolis Daily reported.

Jian allegedly killed his mistress and his own son in May 2000. At that time, Jian’s gambling debts finally caught up with him, and they competed against the monthly RMB 2,000 allowance his Shenzhen family required. Jian needed to choose between them because the third responsibility Jian was not able to evade was his family in Hong Kong, which included two children.

One day after lunch, Jian strangled his mistress and son to death while they were taking an afternoon nap and wrapped their bodies in a nylon bag. After the murders, Jian moved out of the apartment. He stuffed the corpses into a large home appliance shipping crate without raising any suspicion from home movers, the report said.

No one from the mistress’ family ever reported her as a missing person throughout the past 14 years. She had long lost contact with rural family members, and the landlord did not bother to check his tenant since the rent was always paid on time, according to the report.

Jian, described by his mother as “timid”, was arrested in Shenzhen in May shortly after the landlord called the police.

The area of Buji, often referred to as “Little Hong Kong” and located in the north end of Shenzhen, was dubbed a “mistress village” during the 1980s and 90s. Many cross-border drivers and office clerks from Hong Kong led a different life with their mistress there, according to South China Morning Post.

Home page and content page image: Southern Metropolis Daily 


Guangdong Mistress Wannabe Gets Swindled By Sugar Daddy Recruiter

Posted: 06/3/2014 12:05 pm

mistress for hireMistresses in China are renowned for living off the riches of their (often married) boyfriends, but it doesn’t always work out as planned.

That was the case for a 17 year-old Guangzhou girl named Lili (a pseudonym). She answered an online ad in August 2012 to meet Li Jun, a 27 year-old Hunan man, who promised he could introduce her to men interested in taking her as a mistress in exchange for money.

However, before Li was able to introduce her to any potential “sugar daddies”, he first asked Lili to pay an RMB 5,000 “honesty fee” upfront.

Trusting Li, Lili dutifully transferred the money. Li then threatened to expose Lili for being involved in this conspiracy. With Li Jun holding it over her, he raped Lili and used that to further blackmail her.

When the victim’s distraught family found out about the crime, they reported Li to the police, who arrested him and charged him with fraud and rape. He was later convincted and has been sentenced to 10 and a half years in prison.

The moral of the story? Even mistresses can be swindled… sometimes.

Photo: Weibo


Guangdong official sacked over nude photos published by mistress

Posted: 02/28/2014 9:12 am

Mistresses are becoming a growing ‘problem’ for corrupt government officials across the country. When feeling spurned, they tend to have a lot of ammunition to seek revenge.

The latest case involves Du Weijun, the head of Duanzhou district’s culture bureau, who was officially sacked from his post after his mistress published nude photos of him online in late January, Information Times reported on February 27.

Du was found having “serious violations of socialist moral ethics” after an investigation carried out by the local discipline inspection commission, according to a Weibo post by Duanzhou district’s publicity department on Tuesday night. Du was also suspended from all his Party posts for a year, according to the newspaper.

His mistress alleged he embezzled public funds and was also involved in gambling, the report said. It did not, however, say if there is an investigation into his embezzlement.

The report came at a time when the Central Discipline Inspection Commission’s eighth inspection brigade rounded up their inspection tour in Guangdong.  The brigade reiterated the importance of anti-corruption, and found that the problem of “naked officials”  or Luoguan (裸官) in Chinese, referring to officials who have moved their spouses, children and assets abroad while remaining at home themselves, is “quite serious” in Guangdong, China News reported.

In mid-January this year, the Central Discipline Inspection Commission issued six rules to bar officials from promotions including “those whose spouses have migrated abroad, or, if there is no spouse, those whose children have moved abroad,” The New York Times reported on January 16.

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Watch: Angry, pregnant mistress storms Shenzhen wedding

Posted: 11/27/2013 2:10 pm

A pregnant mistress showed up at a wedding in Shenzhen’s Huaqiangbei area dressed in a wedding dress to pick a fight with the bride. The below footage was put on Sina’s official microblog today.

The cat fight appears to have been prevented from becoming too violent.

Amid all the screaming, the bride can be made out saying: “You didn’t have an abortion while you could and now you come here with your big stomach, how do I know whose kid it is? Are you trying to coerce us into buying you a house? Can we afford it?”

Update 2:43pm

Some have told us the Sina video is unstable, so we’ve posted a backup video below from Youku.


Foshan couple in their 70s make outlandish claims about each other in divorce hearing

Posted: 06/11/2013 7:00 am

A couple in their seventies ended a 60-year marriage at Sanshui Court in Foshan at the weekend after the husband claimed their children weren’t his and the wife claimed that he had been keeping a mistress in her sixties. The court later found out that they weren’t actually married at all, Foshan Daily reports.

Mr Zhang, 77, married Mrs Liu, 79 in 1953 and they had two children. However, when the children turned out to look nothing like him, he expressed suspicion that they weren’t his.

He was later told by relatives that his wife had had a long-term affair with a person from her village and that that person was the children’s father.

In court, Zhang cited the fact that they no longer had feelings for each other and were often fighting when filing for divorce. However, Liu would not agree with the divorce. She claimed that Zhang had been keeping a mistress, known in Chinese as a xiaosan, who is in her 60s.

The court later discovered that when the couple got married they did not go through the proper procedures, so were not actually husband and wife. For this reason, Zhang got his wish and they were allowed to part.

In Behind The Red Door: Sex in China, Richard Burger explains the difference between an ernai and a xiaosan, two different types of mistress. Whereas ernai and the men who keep them have no pretensions towards having feelings for each other, a xiaosan (literally “little three”) intends to get between the “big two” in a marriage and eventually have the husband all to herself.


Guy keeps mistress in Shenzhen for 10 years, fathers 5 kids in addition to 5 he already had

Posted: 01/15/2013 7:00 am

It’s no secret that Shenzhen has a large number of kept women, but one man managed to keep a secret mistress for over a decade, having five babies with the woman to add to the five he had with his wife, Shenzhen Satellite Television reported yesterday.

The man’s wife, Mrs. Li, who lives in Shenzhen’s Buji Subdistrict, told reporters that she was shocked when she learned of the story, saying she had no idea that her husband wasn’t satisfied with their seemingly perfect family.

The couple had been married since the 1980s. According to Li, they pretty much stopped having sex around 2000.  “As a woman, to be without something so important made life itself meaningless,” she tearfully told reporters.

Her husband gave the excuse that he was ill. Li offered to take him to hospital but he refused.

After learning about the secret family from a tip off, Li was shown footage that showed a woman younger than herself and from her own hometown. Of the four children present, one was singing the folk song “Mother Is The Only Good Thing,” but swapped the word “mother” for “father.” While watching the footage, an exasperated Li cried out: “What’s this woman got that I haven’t got?”

After filing for divorce on June 20 last year, the man promised to give Li her share of the five houses and one piece of farmland that they owned. However, she has still not formally received any property.

In his letter of guarantee, the man explained that all of his kids, regardless of who he had them with, would receive all of his care and attention. He has had four children with his mistress and the fifth is on the way. Journalists were unable to reach him for comment.

Some respondents called for a basketball game between the children of the different mothers to decide who gets the properties. But if the information we currently have is accurate, it’s hardly debatable as to whose fault the divorce is.

This news report, currently a story with only one source, raises all kinds of questions. Surely the man has breached China’s family planning laws? If so, how on earth does he get hukou for all his children? How did Li not figure out earlier that something was going on?

This blog, Divorce in China, comes recommended by China Law Blog. Despite the Chinglish, there is a lot of good stuff, such as the urging of readers to do due diligence before marrying (advice that Li could have heeded all those years ago).

Even more pertinently, this comes from the post Fault in the Divorce:

Pursuant to Chinese Marriage Law, article 46 Article 46 where one of the following circumstances leads to divorce, the unerring party shall have the right to claim mental compensation:
1. bigamy is committed;
2. one party who has a spouse cohabits with another person of the opposite sex;
3. family violence is committed; or
4. a family member is maltreated or abandoned.

If her claims are true, then Li can get a very hefty fee indeed.


Tiger Woods in Dongguan for golf? Suuuuurrre he is…

Posted: 04/12/2011 4:46 pm

Alas, we will try not to get into too many Tiger Woods jokes on this page. But it’s just so easy…

The former golfing guru is ostensibly in our fair city to promote PGA golf, but really, with his background and proclivity for ladies of the night, is there any more natural city for him to choose?

Tiger was questioned earlier Tuesday by reporters about his performance at the Masters, in which he finished a respectable fourth. But primarily, he’s here to promote his chosen profession. From the Canadian Press:

Woods was conducting a clinic for junior golfers later Tuesday before moving onto Beijing and then to Seoul, South Korea. He was impressed with the growth of golf in China, and predicted that Chinese golfers will break into the top 50 in the world.

“It’s been really neat as a player who has come here for a number of years to see the development of the fans and their knowledge of the game and their enthusiasm for the sport,” Woods said. “These fans are certainly much more knowledgeable now.

“The growth of golf has been just incredible. A lot more kids are coming out to events whereas when I first came here that wasn’t the case.”

Tiger Woods

Tiger was actually in Shenzhen 10 years ago, which marked his first visit to China.

If you want to read some Tiger Woods jokes (we’ll admit, many of these are kind of lame) you can find a bunch of them on the Tiger Woods Jokes website.

If anybody has photos of him out and about in Dongguan, be sure to send them over. Especially if he visits the Chang’an Century Kangchang Hotel.

Image: Keith Allison/Flickr


Guangzhou rolls out mistress-reduction program

Posted: 04/4/2011 9:19 am

It’s a complicated social phenomena, and not just here in China: women dating rich (and sometimes married) men, just because they have a fat wallet.

But while all countries have been dealing with this issue since practically the start of time, it seems so much more pronounced in China that Guangzhou is instituting a pilot program inside its schools to dissuade girls from becoming mistresses.

From the China Daily:

Girls in South China’s Guangdong province will get a crash course on how to resist the sweet talk of “sugar daddies” when schools start teaching them about self-respect.

The pilot project is aimed at telling girls at middle and elementary schools how to avoid falling into the clutches of older, richer men and stand on their own two feet.

“The education will focus on self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance and self-improvement,” said Lei Yulan, vice-governor of Guangdong and director of the Working Committee on Children and Women of Guangdong province.

“We hope to get experience from this pilot program and then gradually roll it out across the province.”

She revealed the plan at a symposium on Monday where Miao Meixian, the former principal of Guangdong Female Technical Secondary School, criticized the phenomenon that has seen many female college students and graduates become mistresses or marry sugar daddies and become full-time housewives.

Miao said the young women were settling for such a life in part because of deficiencies and failures in the education of girls.

Not everyone is a fan of the project, however, believing it could have some unintended side effects:

….some students argued that exposing children to such topics too soon could bring more risks than benefits.

“Mentioning such topics as marrying rich men or being a mistress may suggest ideas to young girls that they had not thought about,” said Shen Xiaoqing, an 18-year-old female student at Guangzhou Zhixin Middle School.

Some experts also said such a program is unlikely to dissuade people from marrying for money.

“Wanting to rely on rich men is a complicated social phenomenon caused by various factors and it is improper to attribute it to personal immorality,” said Li Xia, an anthropologist working in women’s studies and a senior editor at the Commercial Press.

One colleagues’ take on the matter is that doing the so-called “right thing” in China, such as going to university, working hard, and then entering the workplace often doesn’t result in success (or happiness) in such a corrupt and imbalanced society. The result being that some women decide they can get further ahead taking a different path.

Some argue as China continues to develop and spread the wealth around, fewer women will either want or need to rely on men to achieve their personal goals.

Of course, others would also argue there is nothing wrong with being a mistress at all.



“Mistress Festival” doesn’t go as planned; still yearn for respect

Posted: 03/5/2011 6:00 am

Mistresses in China (and there are many) are rising up: they are severing the shackles of disrespect and boldly yearning for acceptance. But it isn’t going so well.

Proud mistresses in China set up a so-called “Mistress Festival” online on March 3 to air their grievances and celebrate their profession. The date (3/3) is auspicious, because “Little Three” (小三) is often a nickname given to mistresses, given that they are the third party in the relationship. But when there’s an online gathering, you have to expect those who oppose your agenda might appear, such as, say, a wronged wife. And that’s what happened:

Things got off to a bad start when, in her introduction, an invited wife proclaimed her loyalty to her husband.

She was assailed by mistresses mocking her “loyalty” and teasing her by saying they would seduce her husband.

Other participants came to the defense of the beleaguered wife, criticizing the aggressive behavior of the mistresses.

As levels of abuse escalated and chaos reigned, the moderator was forced to warn participants to behave.

This is a hot topic in China, as mistresses seem to be as common as yangrou chuanr stands. The PRD, in particular, is a famous haven for mistresses in relationships with men from nearby Hong Kong and Taiwan. Unlike in the west, however, there appears to be less stigma for mistresses in China; they are almost accepted as an accessory if a man becomes successful enough to have earned one. Even wives will often look the other way, knowing their husbands are just “having fun” and wouldn’t leave the marriage.

So do mistresses deserve respect? There are very few professions that are as shameless; mistresses basically sell their good looks for a pseudo-relationship with a married man, which is only one degree removed from another famous profession. But from their perspective, they are just cashing in: if a man wants to pay a monthly salary, by Gucci handbags and set her up in a good apartment, why shouldn’t she accept? Beats working 9-5 in an office, right?

If you want to check out the website for the mistress festival, you can find it here in Chinese only.

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